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Friday, December 30, 2011

DON'T LEAVE THEM ALONE... TIME TO GO HOME :D

It's the last day of the year today, a lot of people started to have New Year Resolution, most of it being dragged from 2011 to 2012, and some are new ones, some are achievable, some are just dreams.

It's always nice if we have 10 months of December every year, as it's a giving month and a real happening month whereby we see a lot of people shopping, give gifts, take photos and have celebrations, whether it's for Xmas or to celebrate another great year or to welcome another wonderful year.

Times flies, I just watched a Youtube clip, it's about the importance of family getting together during Chinese New Year. Sometimes, it's not about Chinese New Year, it's about the time we spend with our loved ones. A lot of people tell me that they are busy, in fact, I always 'think' I am busy. Yes, everyone is busy, earning more money, improving lives BUT spending less time with those who deserves our attention.

Young people will have outings with their friends, singles will have plans to go shopping or have fun with other friends, married people will be busy with their own family, working people will always be busy with their work BUT ... do you remember that you have old folks at home, just waiting for you, just for a simple dinner?

Most people will think that they are busy and a dinner can be any day. The 'any day' mindset is killing the relationship. Old folks are getting old, they know, the 'time left' is not as much as we all younger people have. Maybe yes, we are busy with work, juggling with family matters, too many invitations to other events, too into our hobbies, until we always forget, that we only have less than 2 hours with the old folks in our family.

I lost both my father and grandma in 2010, what a terrible year for me. I cried and cried when doctor told me that my father would never wake up again when he was in coma. I couldn't take it, because when he was with us, we refused to listen to his words, we thought it was so boring, so boring.

When my father was around, I was too lazy to meet him. I gave myself excuses and think it's ok if we are not seeing each other coz that time, he was just in his 50's... What a crap! What a stupid thinking! I wish I could slap myself and 'wake up' before he left us... I know that he wasn't a perfect father, he tried his best, he was just a human, but I didn't pay attention to him at all when he was still there. Now... it's just silent cry in me, thinking of him... "Papa, I am sorry, I just hope that you are happier up there... I know I wasn't as good, but I really miss you."

And in the same year, grandma left us. It was one of the biggest slap in my life, she was a wonderful person, no one can replace her awesomeness. I still remember how she cleaned my school shoes, how she prepared the meals for us, how she talk to us like friends, she is just too perfect... I still remember the day when she went for her brain operation early 2010, I should have stopped the decision for operation. I can't forget how she yelled out pain, how she was in misery and she was 78... too old for anything!! Why torture? "Popo, I miss you, although sometimes I smile when I think of you, although when it's raining I think of you, but deep inside my heart, I cannot stop crying because I know now I no longer can hold your soft hands to the market and I know we cannot share the same Chu Cheong Fun or the same piece of 9-layer kuih like last time when we were around. I miss you popo... very miss you....

To those who still have old folks at home, please go home and have a simple dinner with them as much as you can. Imagine if you only balik kampung 4 times a year, means you only see them 4 times a year... isn't it time to balik kampung more? How long can old folks live? No one knows, even fortune teller can't be specific, so don't take chances, appreciate them.

Have a blessed year 2012, I know when we think back, we achieved a lot, and we regret on certain things. Go and achieve more and stop regretting.

Hugs,
Candy